Excuse Me, Can I Get you A Drink?

02 December 2009
Posted in Meeting Women

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Never, ever, ever, ever ever ever use "Excuse me, can I get you a drink?" as an opener or chat up line. Frankly, it's the very worst thing you can do. It's wrapping your testicles into a neat parcel and handing them over in exchange for a small amount of face time with a random woman. A very unattractive act!

If you've ever used, which can only be described as "the line" you will want to approach from a completely different angle. Act as if you're an amazingly important person who confidently commands power and status. Even though you're essentially acting, you do start feeling and conveying - confidence, status, leadership, dominance and utter manliness.

To pull it off correctly, you want to:

• Talk very slowly while making direct eye contact
• Never ask her to do anything, instead - instruct her
• Stand tall, chest out, back raised with your arms uncrossed
• Have high standards - don't approach women who look rough. Stick with what you really want.

To get yourself into the frame of mind, when you enter the club:

• Walk in slowly, stand by the entrance and slowly look around (Like you own the place)
• Still standing at the entrance, point at random people, smile and nod your head like you know them

Once you've got yourself feeling confident, dominant and important. You can begin approaching. But this time, instead of using "the line" - say something a confident, dominant, important man would say. Examples would be:

• "Excuse me, can you get me a drink?" (Said half jokingly but with a serious face)
• "Hey Sally! You owe me a drink!" (When she replies that she has no idea who Sally is, you reply back with: "Well, for my inconvenience - I believe you owe me a drink too!")

Have fun with your "lines" and remember it's all a big game - enjoy it and leave a comment of your past experiences using "the line", I'd love to hear them!