Have Standards with Women You Can Be Proud Of

28 January 2010
Posted in Attracting Women

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If you constantly undermine yourself and go for a woman whose under your perceived standards, this post will help you see the qualities you desire and how to raise your standards to match them.

Before you begin, you need to understand and believe the following:

• You are the PRIZE! In any situation, you are the prize - not her. Value yourself.
• A list of standards. Create a list of standards you expect and stick to it.

Creating the list

If you're not 100% sure what standards you expect, take a look at this list - this is my personal list:

1. Adventurous
2. Spontaneous
3. Mentally strong
4. Up for a challenge
5. Intelligence
6. Sophisticated
7. Optimistic
8. Not afraid of change

You can take what you want from my list, mash it up with your own or generally disregard it. Either way, having a list of standards in mind will help you tremendously. Another way to look at it is to also have a list of things you will NOT tolerate:

1. Drama
2. Neediness
3. Dishonesty
4. Disrespect
5. Indecisiveness
6. Chaviness (check 15 types of women you should avoid for more)

Knowing what you don't want is as helpful as knowing what you do want sometimes.

Finding your required standards in women

Right, we've got a list, we know we're the prize. Next, we need to find whether or not she has the qualities required to fulfil your standards.

Personally, during small conversation I'd enter this line: "You seem like you may be adventurous, are you?” – If she says ”Yes” say – “Good, if you weren't I was going to walk away since I'm only friends with adventurous people." From this point on you could enforce your prize mentality by saying something like: "Even though you think you might be adventurous, I don't know if this friendship will work out because I doubt you could handle me". Depending on her answer, you've either met or missed your first standard.

If she answers negatively or by saying "No" then walk away, she's below your standards. But, if you've found that she's adventurous, you now have plenty of ammunition available for more small talk before you test her on another standard. For example, you could ask her what her most adventurous think was in the past few months - this always turns up an interesting conversation.

Your next step would be your next standard, in my case it would be 'spontaneous' where I'd use a similar set up as 'adventurous' (feel free to customise and have fun with how you find your standards). Work your way through your list of standards in any order you see fit, qualify them all and you know you've got a women who rocks your world. Don't accept any less, you're the prize remember?

Conclusion

Having a list of standards is powerful because it shows you as a man who knows what he wants - a very sexy trait. Knowing what you want is also helpful in the time and effort department, think of the time you'd save by not dating needy or dramatic women. Instead, focus on the cool, healthy women you really enjoy and everything will work out perfectly.

What do you expect with a woman, are you brave enough to comment your personal standards?